Not really but my husband is kind of living in Crabbyville thus he has the Poopypants.
Look you too can talk like a pre-schooler. The reasoning is pretty simple - he is feeling beyond neglected by some of his dearest and oldest friends. And to be honest - they are being pretty crappy to him. When we first got together I had some concerns about how they treat him and it has just manifested over the years.
I am pretty lucky - even if I haven't spoken to my friends for awhile when we do reconnect - it's the same. And we all at least try to make an effort. Email has honestly revived a lot of relationships I almost lost. Hi Annie!
It also maintains relationships w/my friends who are crazy ass busy. Hi Bethie!
Chris's friends aren't those people. I have one person in my life who always seems to call only when they need something, but that's it. My honey has friends that even though they traveled to another country to see us wed, don't feel they need to talk to us much. Well you know they did get their vacation in - what do they need us for?! What frustrates me the most - is Chris defends them all to death and loves them a lot. One person in particular most of us would of walked away from and some people did - he stuck by.
I don't know - I was raised to cherish relationships, things can change so fast.
So that is what I do, it makes me sad when others don't, especially when they do it to people I love.
On that note, I am going to go hug my husband and email my grandma.
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I hate to sound high school (one reason I hate to is because it was SO LONG AGO), but I will quote a song... "It's sad how some friendships never ever seem to end." Thank you, Mr. Popper. I'll tell you what, friendships can be work, but at some point, you do have diminishing returns. If it's no fun to be with these folks after you look forward to being with them... Caprise, you are right, e-mail has saved and renewed many friendships. Thanks for not giving up.
Ya know what? After I got married, friendships changed a lot, too. That was almost 7 years ago. There are some folks I haven't talked to since that day. In some cases, I wish I could have seen into the future to know who would mean what in my life 7 years later. The bridal party would have been a lot different. So would the list of invited guests, that's for sure.
You're right, email does help. But it has to be a 2 way street. I recently emailed a group of friends about seeing VH in Milwaukee. One of those friends, remembering I used to work in radio, called right away to see if I had free tickets--I hadn't heard from him in 7 months. When I told him I didn't, he had nothing left to say. We hung up. It'll be another year or better before I hear from him again.
You know what else changes friendships? When one friend has a child. That's what killed my friendship with previously mentioned friend. I went to the baby shower--my wife couldn't attend--and that was over 2 years ago. To this day I've not met the baby.
Some friendships can stand the test of time. Others can't. We just have to cherish friendships while they last, because we never know what tomorrow might bring.
Thanks for being my friend! Even when we go for long times without communication, I know you will still be my friend. That's what true friendships are. Knowing you have that person, and that they have you, no matter how much time has passed between encounters.
Paul
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